# Chapter 97

“There is no cap to your potential. Your identity is fluid. You get to choose.”

These are all magnificent things that we dream of all our lives, and then for some reason decide that they are not possible. When in reality they are completely possible and we just have to take them.

I read it somewhere that you go through different versions of yourself. I say to my wife that I am on my third version of her, and she is on her fifth version of me! This is true and perfectly normal. We change. We grow. We develop. Just too slowly and with far too many boundaries.

The idea that there is no cap . . . befuddles our daily experiences. We live in an apparently bounded world with hard limits. To conceive of a world where there is no cap, just can’t be easily grasped. Can’t be easily conjured. Difficult to reach for and seize. If there is no cap, why did you choose what you have chosen? Why have you become what you have become? With no cap, there is more.

And with no cap, your identity can be fluid. It already is anyways, but this makes it easier to get your mind around. The reason I say it already is, is because I have played with this one for many years. And it is largely cultural and language specific. Different cultures and languages explain your identity in different ways. Westerners explain identity in terms of function, and since my function is very abstract and mystifying to most folks, I may use an Eastern Identity phrase and just say I am the father of Heidi, Jake and Helen, rather than my function in the world.

But you can be anyone you want to be. You get to choose.

Chose.

Be.