Chapter 180

"There are only two options regarding commitment: you're either in or you're out. There's no such thing as life in between."

In the modern world, commitment  seems to have acquired an elastic meaning in the popular culture. It can be used to rate how involved a person is in a project or event. It can be a word used as a measurement of frequency of engagement (I even do this myself).  It is often used to describe the number of responsibilities as person has. 

But commitment is a restraining word. It has boundaries and borders and it boxes us in completely. And it is that last word we resist, why we strive to elasticize and dilute the meaning and concept of commitment. We all want a back door out, a clause that will free us from obligation, a get out of jail free card, where our commitment can be erased and undone and be free of all consequences from this as well.

People who are trying to have a life in between commitment and no commitment are delusional. There is no thing as life in between. If you think you are gaming the system and that you are in between, you actually are just not committed to whatever is in question. You. Are. Not. Committed. Your public posture may be that you are committed, but you know you aren’t.  If you are seriously committed to anything in this scenario it is a commitment to not be committed, a commitment to no boundaries, borders or boxes. 

Its a sad empty life, disguised as freedom and choice.