# Chapter 220

Fears can really confine us and they aren’t always rational. I was trying to help my son get his head around a different approach to housing as he is planning to move to a different city and he was bemoaning the housing costs. I showed him how to live basically rent free and he jumped on it! Not! He acted like he did not understand, which is impossible because he is super intelligent and this isn’t even close to being difficult to understand. So his resistance isn’t lack of understanding, it is fear. He is afraid of the responsibility, of the size of the undertaking, of something, but he is afraid. And these fears make no sense to me, but they do to him obviously, or maybe not. At the end of the day he would rather rent and pay that money than house-hack and not pay rent.

Everyone has fears including me. And they aren’t all that rational to those looking in from the outside. And the reason I keep pounding on this is that we have face these fears if we want to overcome these constraints. You are following me here right? Those constraints hold you back in negative ways. Boundaries are the healthy version of constraints. Boundaries help you stay on the path. Fears keep you from ever getting on the path. Face them and try to unpack them, and if you succeed then you be able to make much better decisions. I will be able to make much better decisions.