# Chapter 218

There are so many things to enjoy and experience in life that it can seem overwhelming. But then you grow older and its seems that there is less to look forward to, and more painful as well. And the things that you loved to do before are less fun now, and more painful too. And all these people that you have loved and poured your life into are dying and moving on to the next life, in other words they are leaving you and you can’t do anything about it. In the sense you can’t stop it, change the course of it, or mitigate any of these matters, you are powerless.

The only area where you have any power and control is in what happens inside of you, inside your heart, inside your mind, inside your self-talk and thinking. Honestly it won’t feel like much control, but it is actually far more than it feels like it is. The net result and outcomes will exceed your expectations and understandings. This has an outsized result. And for better or worse, it is the only thing you can control with any degree of certainty.

So own it. You can’t influence the eternal factors very much and even less and less as you get older. But you ought to have a much greater degree of power and finesse over your internal factors as you get to this age. This is what it is and nothing more and nothing less. It has the power I give it from the inside.