# Chapter 304

To teach our younger grandkids how to use a spoon and fork we have to first teach them to stop using their hands. In many areas of life, we have to unlearn a wrong or unsustainable action, before we can learn something correctly. Brenda and I still have no idea why our daughter lets the babies eat with their hands, but in order to successfully use a spoon and fork, the hands have to stop. Good luck with getting them to stop using their hands! It is what they were allowed to do and what is easiest for getting food in their mouths. That is a lot to swim upstream against.

But we all face these kinds of things. I have had to unlearn how I developed my typing skills decades ago, in order to learn how to type correctly and not look at the keys. The same with the guitar. I learned how to hack these things years and years and years ago and never learned the proper way to execute these actions. Breaking these decades old patterns for doing things is really difficult. The intermediate state between unlearning and relearning is the most frustrating and will require the most patience. Retraining myself is no less difficult than retraining the grandkids, but a little less messy I hope.