# Chapter 309

Who we might have been? I felt that question more often and more deeply when I was 40 than I do now when I am almost 60. But it is just as critical a question now as it was then, because we are still changing when we reach 60 or at least I am, your mileage may differ. But this is also a useless maudlin question unless you modernize it and make it work in the present. Otherwise you just sit around and fantasize about what could have been what might have been, what would have been different than the life you chose.

Just modernize it and ask, “who might we be today?” What kind of person do I want to be today? What kind of impact do I want to make today? Who do I want to help today? What do I care deeply about today? And on it goes or can go. Its never too late to become who we might have been. All it takes is the same commitment and the same action that it would have required back whenever in your past. Yes that’s right, it costs just as much as it did before and you very well may decide once again that the the price is too high as you obviously decided before. And so 10 years from now you will still be thinking about what you might have been, instead of being being that person. Or maybe you are wiser and braver today than you were in the past.