# Chapter 180

Setbacks are a regular part of living. I have them you have them we all have them. There are setbacks and then there are setbacks. You have to decide how much weight to give each one of them. What are setbacks some of you wonder? The rest of us already hate you, but setbacks are when your ideal progress in a certain direction or toward a certain goal is not moving in the desired direction, thus the phrase setback. Some days can feel like one setback after another one. This is when a book like the Gain and the Gap are very handy and encouraging, that you have made progress, not today perhaps, but overall you have come so far.

That bigger perspective is super critical, understanding how far you have come and even while knowing that you want to go further, you have not failed. A setback is a setback, not a failure. A failure would be giving up. A setback is a reframing and decision making time - what are you going to do now? What changes are you deciding to make to reverse the setback of today? How are you going to dig in deeper and accomplish better? What steps are you planning and putting into play to turn this around? As long as you can answer any of these questions, or are even willing to try, then you are not a failure. Setbacks are temporary, failure is just giving up and losing all your gains.