# Chapter 78

There are so many transitions in life (about 35 yesterday) and decisions (about 35,000 yesterday) in life, that you can feel like things will never settle down into a comfortable rhythm that you can embrace. Instead you feel like you are in eternal transition and decision chaos and pressure. There are so many people locked into such a circle of living, and there is often no way to stop the world and get off. Elder care drives my frustration in this area, with my two primary responsibilities refusing to live on the same place on the planet, instead they are 700 miles apart, so back and forth back and forth I go. Travel in and of itself creates a seemingly endless cycle of transitions and decisions.

Your primary driving factor may be different than mine and that is of course, perfectly fine. But we both need to find a more manageable way to live a life that will allow us to settle down and find a comfortable rhythm. So one of the methods that I am trying this year is to group and schedule. Group my activities in one location and schedule my activities in the other location. So I do all medical and sports and celebrations and rehab in one location, and all my development and oversight and reparenting in the other location. The verdict is still out on how this is going to work or not. It still feels like I have whiplash all the time.

Of course as my wife reminds me all the time, death will bring these transitions and decisions to an end. What she doesn’t say is that when that time comes, it will be the beginning of a different transitions and decisions time. Buckle in. This is the ride.