# Chapter 75

It seems that our efforts in life bring us the joy and the unhappiness that we experience. You do good for others and you have a life filled with joy. You do good for you and you have a life filled with unhappiness, because you are fickle on a good day. Let me correct that, I am fickle on a good day so I assume that you are too. When all our actions center around ourselves then we are doomed. That is a circular merry-go-round of selfishness that breeds more selfishness and there is no way to satisfy that animal. It consumes and eats you and you will not find solace, much less happiness or contentment in that path. It will seduce you and tempt you and beg you to buy just one more thing for yourself, but it will not satisfy. History has long proved this, as well as most religious texts and principles.

However if your efforts are focused toward helping others grow, develop, succeed, win, learn and flourish, then I think you will find that your life is extra full. Full of pleasure, happiness, joy and contentment. Is this a panacea? No it is not. Are some people going to take advantage of you? For sure and certain, people always do. But this mere act of focusing on the success of others is a rare gift that you give yourself and you will be astonished at the gifts it brings you the giver. Of course this won’t motivate you at all if you are a happy giver, because happy givers don’t give to get.