What you will do! — Dr D’s Diagnosis

# Chapter 116 “Peter always said it was good to not get hung up on the things you’ve done but on the things you will do.” Zapata

In the last three years I have been spending tons of time with my dad, as my mom and brother passed away three years ago, in the same calendar year. In these hundreds of hours that we have spent together since their deaths, I can say with authority and deep experience, my dad is hung up on the things he has done in the past. This comprises 85% of his conversation. When I mention this to others they shrug it off immediately and basically say, “he’s pushing 80 years old, what do you expect?” Or, “all old people are hung up on the past.” Or something along those lines. This is deadly thinking.

When my dad lights up the most is when we are talking about his girlfriend, or working on a project (which I create constantly on purpose) together. Then he is fully living in the present and near future, and he is most alive. This is true for all of us.

When I worked in HR many decades ago, the number one thing I looked for in applicants was ambition - plans for the future. These were the people we could build our company on.

What we have done in the past is important, but not as important as the things we will do in the future. Not matter how many times we have circled the sun. What are you planning to accomplish next?