Who to love

# Chapter 119

“My point is when we are young, it’s hard to choose who to love. When we are older, it becomes an imperative.” Harms

I have less days left than ever to love the important people in my life. I know that sounds grim and my wife regularly busts my chops about seeing everything in an everyone-is-going-to-die-soon manner. But we have had three of four parents and one sibling die in recent years. We are not far behind. While this sounds grim to most, it is just factual to me.

The paradox of my life (and perhaps everyone’s) is that my circle of acquaintances around the world grows ever larger while my circle of important people grows ever smaller. This is imperative as you grow older! Focus more on the important pieces. You have limitations. Acknowledge them and then take appropriate action. And be lavish about it, when you have made these choices. Don’t hold back!

And in another paradox . . . I have less love to give than ever before. I am jaded and scarred and arthritic and damaged and hurt and betrayed and these are cumulative at some level on our psychics. It won’t be the pure love of small child. It will be the complicated love of an adult. Navigate with caution. Yet I have more to give than ever before. Experience, wisdom, training, education, well-traveled, awareness, appropriately suspicious, mama bear ferocity, perspective and protection. And more.