You can only go as far as you can communicate

# Chapter 131

I know that I keep circling around back to clarity, and especially pre-clarity, but the more I work at getting settled and adjusted to life in America, the more these two keep coming up over and over. I have business decisions that need to be made, but hell I don’t even know what I don’t know about that yet. And when will I? When do you hit that magic number of experiences that let you make a clear informed decision?? I have no idea, and am pretty sure that every field of work and knowledge has a different number and requirement. Knowledge work can take decades, widget work takes . . . ? I guess I might find out if I hang around here long enough.

Art Petty said it so well and I am properly challenged to take it up another level or 10, “you can only go as far as you can communicate.” I need to find the right words, segue’s, time and moods to communicate effectively and carefully so that I don’t do damage to this relationship as I tell the truth about my concerns and fears and thankfulness. These are tricky matters. My feelings and emotions threaten constantly to overwhelm my restraint and wisdom and get my mouth in gear long before I carefully map out what I can and should be saying and how. I am sure you never have this problem and neither do I usually, but I definitely have it here in this particular humongous problem. This is pre-clarity at its most defined - what are you actually trying to communicate and why? Honestly?

These matters can be so tricky and difficult and of course you don’t want to do any harm along the way. How to preserve and enhance these relationships while extricating myself from relational minefields? How well can you communicate these nuances? There lies the rub.