beyond our comfort zone, but not into the damage zone.

# Chapter 149

You do what you can. We all end up here at some point. The take away is that you don’t want to ever use this as an excuse for less. That is what it seems to become too often and you don’t want that and I don’t want that. You do what you can, every parent and grandparent feels this intensely, but drawing the boundaries is really difficult. You do what you can, until the point of exhaustion? Bankruptcy? Mental limits? These are not the boundaries that will bring health and life to the world, your world, our world. I think you do what you can, means that you are quick to step up and offer help and mean it. And I think we need to be willing to go beyond our comfort zone, but not into the damage zone. You get it? People need help and we can give it, but not until the point where it causes us damage and then we need help, that would move the cycle in the wrong direction.

So you have to decide to fully engage being uncomfortable with how much is required or expected of you, while not incurring damage. This is critical because if you help to the point of hurting yourself, you will not be able to help the next person, and there is always a next person. This is when helping hurts in a non-sustainable fashion and you need to stop. The other thing here, is that helping others can hurt if you are helping them in ways that prevent them from growing and developing and being responsible for themselves. But that is enough for today. You and me, we will do what we can.