What I say in my head

# Chapter 283

What I say is what I believe – what I believe is how I act. - Masterminds

That is possible I imagine. But I am sure that what you think is what you are believing and that will lead into your actions, but what you say? Perhaps I know more liars than you do? Perhaps I lie more than you do? Not only that, a lot of what we say is just unfactual and inaccurate, in other words wrong. Sure there are times and moments when we are transparent and truthful and what we say is a window into what we really believe and what we will take actions on, but I don’t think that is the de facto condition most experience. In my short 60 years on the planet I think most people say what is expected of them, not what they actually think and believe. As I work with clients around the world, it is difficult to get them to come to a place where we can have really full and honest conversations about what they believe, and the actions they are taking. So I don’t get this particular Masterminds at all. Don’t agree with it at all . . . unless.

Unless we are talking about self-talk, inside your head, the conversations that you privately have with yourself. If that is the case, then I could largely sign off on this premise. Those conversations inside our heads can be really brutal and forthright. Not many hidden things there. However that doesn’t mean they are accurate. Alignment of what I think inside my mind, and my outward actions, with actual reality is one of the main aims I have for myself and my clients. Wrong self-talk is very damaging. It leads us to all kinds of wrong beliefs and wrong actions.